Getting to know each other at first

We worked through a list of more than 700 questions that we came up with during the course of our six month online/on the phone relationship. We felt that we really had to know each other well before I made the big move to the US. 

We wanted to make sure that we really had a great connection at all levels: emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, physically. It was important that we shared the same values and morals and that we had a similar outlook on life. 

Here is a sample of our list of questions. I hope it helps others who are in a long distance relationship:

Emotional	What is love - giving or receiving? Romance? Does it put spark in a relationship? Do big boys cry? What is quality time? What was the proudest moment in your life? Do you believe in a sixth sense? Do you act on it? Your feelings on divorce? How emotional are you? Do big boys cry? What tears you apart? Does love last forever? Is love a decision or a feeling? How do you handle pain?
Spiritual	Who is God? Do you believe in the end of the world? Do you believe in fate? Do you believe in miracles? Are you blessed? What does the term 'new age' mean to you? What does Christmas mean to you? Are you afraid to die? Is there life after death? Is there a heaven/hell?  Do you believe in premonitions? Are you afraid of the unknown? Your feelings on the charismatic church movement? Your feelings on religious fundamentalism? Are you spiritual or religious?
Values	Do you believe in the value of incentives? Is something always black or white or is there a gray area too? White lies under certain circumstances? Is family important? Are priorities important? Is patience a virtue? What does 'respect' mean to you? Is it earned? Your feelings on abortion? Do you believe in the traditional institution of marriage? What determines your norms and values? How important is money to you? Is the father the head of the home? Do you tell lies? Do you believe in 'an eye for an eye'? Your views on surrogacy? A pop star earns more than the President of the United States. Is this right? Does money make the world go round?
Personality	Are you ethnocentric? Do you swear (cuss)? What is your biggest fear? Are you a snob? What does the word 'adventure' mean to you? If you could be a celebrity, who would you be? What is a best friend? Are you a private person?  What does privacy mean to you? Do you like surprises? Giving or receiving? What is the worst thing someone can do to you? What is the best thing someone can do for you? What is your best quality? What is your worst personality trait? The biggest gift you can give yourself? Do you hold grudges? Do you forgive easily? Your greatest role model? Your greatest nightmare? How do you handle anger/disappointment? Do you prefer to sleep next to a window or away from a window? What makes you happy? What makes you sad? What is the greatest lesson life has taught you? Are you a proud person? Are you stubborn? What does 'balance' mean to you? Do you believe in brutal honesty? Do you procrastinate? Are you a jealous person? What makes you jealous? Do you believe in doing everything in moderation? Do you think beauty is to be found in everyone and that there is too much emphasis on physical beauty? How do you handle criticism? Are you materialistic? How do you let off steam? What makes you anxious? How important is independence to you? Are you a traditionalist? How competitive are you? What would you never compromise on? Do you give up easily? Do you panic easily? How creative are you? Would you descrive yourself as susceptible? How gullible are you? Do you complain when you receive poor service? Are you a social person? How athletic are you? What do you notice first when you meet someone? Where do you draw the line? Are you selfish? How do you handle a challenge? Are you a leader or follower? Do you delegate or do? Are you a team player? Are you moody? Do you sulk? Do you have self discipline? How neat are you? Can you keep a secret? Can you stick to a budget? Do you throw tantrums? Are you envious? Do you mind your own business? Are you self-confident? Do you face problems head-on? Do you like rain? Do you believe in yourself? Are you patriotic? Are you analytical? Are you an extrovert/introvert? What does 'frame of reference' mean to you? Your feelings about in-laws? Is it easy to say no? Do you trust easily? Do you believe in long engagements before tying the knot? Are you tactful? Do you have good negotiating skills? Do you have a mentor? How important are details to you? What kind of car do you like? How do you handle noise? Do you build castles in the air? Your feelings about royalty? How much would you share with your best friend about your relationship/marriage? How galant are you? Are you judgemental? Do you strive for perfection? Are you a good teacher? Do you enjoy flying? Do you worry? Do you borrow things from people? Do you loan out things to people? Would you attend a high school reunion? Are you impulsive? Do you ponder a lot? Do you follow orders easily? Are you opinionated? Do you enjoy parties? Do you enjoy sitcoms? Do you believe in going the extra mile? What is music to your ears? Would your partner's success threaten you? How do you feel about a woman being the main breadwinner? How would you react if your partner buys you a very expensive gift, one that you couldn't afford? Do you have a problem with crowds? How do you feel about Christmas spending? What would you not tolerate? Your mutual friends get divorced. How would you handle the situation? Are you a realist? Do you have a good sense of humour? Do you have a quick temper? Do you ever wonder about what was and wonder what if? Are you a happy and content person? How do you handle constant interruptions? Your partner tells you he/she will be home at a certain time but arrives two hours later. How do you handle the situation?
Intimacy	Do you believe in love at first sight? Your favourite part of a woman's body? Your biggest turn-off in a woman? Do you remember your first kiss? What do you remember about your first love? How many times a day do you think about making love? You meet a girl, find yourself attracted to her, but there is the question of Aids and STD's. Would you ask her to be tested before pursuing the relationship? Your feelings on nudity? Describe an ideal evening with your partner. Your feelings about swingers? What is the biggest betrayal? Your feelings on masterbation? What is lovemaking? And sex? Your feelings about a woman making the first move? Why does the frequency of making love diminish in a marriage? Would you have sex on a first date? Would you go on a blind date? Do you like being touched/hugged? What makes a woman 'cheap'? Do you enjoy flirting? Your feelings on foreplay? Do you enjoy kissing? Do you have intimate fantasies? What does commitment mean to you? Make love in the bedroom only? Where do you see this relationship going? What is a turnoff during love-making? How do you feel about your own body? A quickie or long love-making session? How important is the physical side to a relationship? Your feelings on sex aides? Your feelings on pornography? How old were you when you had your first girlfriend/boyfriend? When was your heart broken the first time? Is one's first love one's only real love? Why would you cheat on a partner? Your perfect romantic setting? Is it easy to love you? Is it okay for a couple to lead individual social lives? What embarrasses you? How many sex partners have you had? How many times a week do you believe a couple should be intimate? Do you enjoy a massage? Do you like lingerie?
Parenting	Your view on children. Are you a baby person? Your feelings on your teenage son/daughter and birth control at age 16. The best character traits you can instill in your children? How have children changed your life? Do you believe in corporal punishment? The best advice you can give your kids? How would you deal with a child bullying your child at school? Would you get involved in matters at school that affect your child? How would you explain sexuality to your children? Do you believe in the saying 'do as I say and not as I do'? If your child did something completely unexpected - like posing nude - how would you handle it? Private or public schools? If your son or daughter brought home a girlfriend or boyfriend of a different race, would it bother you? If you son or daughter married into a different religion, would it bother you? Can someone else discipline your child? How many children do you want? Your views on education and secondary education?
Your past	Do you look back on your childhood with fond memories? What are your earliest childhood memories? What is your happiest childhood memory? Are you living the dreams you had as a child? Did you enjoy school?  Your greatest disappointment? Your greatest achievement? The scariest thing you have ever done? What has been your greatest moment of truth?
Communication	How important is communication in a relationship? If your partner was very excited about something, but you did not share their enthusiasm, would you tell her? Is a marriage 50-50 or 100-100? Are there traditional roles for a man and woman in a marriage? What do you expect from your partner? Should criticism always be constructive? Do you say: "I'm sorry. I made a mistake."? How much would you share with your partner about your work? Your partner is moody/sad. How do you handle the situation? Should you tell your partner about all the skeletons in your closet? In your relationship, whose decision is final? Do you always have the final say/word? Can one be private in a relationship? Is your partner allowed to delve into your past? What would you not share with your partner? Are you a good negotiator? Do you compromise easily? Is it okay to say 'I love you'?
General	Do you loan money easily? If so, would you ask for it if the person doesn't pay up? Do you like motorcycles? Do you like nail polish on a woman? Cat or dog? Bird or goldfish? Classical music or jazz? Salt or sweet? Your favourite season of the year. What is art? Do feathers make the bird? Who is your best friend and why? Do you have a fear for dentists? Your friend's wife is having an affair. Would you tell him? Swimming pool or hot tub (jacuzzi)? Your favourite entree. Do you enjoy dessert? Movie or DVD? The flower children of the 70's. Do you think this was an appealing lifestyle? Who was your best friend at school? Your favourite teacher? What are your mom and dad's best qualities? Your favourite room in a house? Your favourite animal or flower? Your favourite item of clothing? Your worst household chore? Your dream holiday? Radio or television? Your favourite actor or actress? Your favourite drink? Favourite time of day? Your favourite jewellery? Do you enjoy theme parties? What do you think of women's liberation movements? Do you think students have a role in politics? Have you experimented with drugs? Does democracy mean anything to you? What does fulfillment mean to you? The top five priorities in your life. What are your favourite colours? Why? Do you believe in capital punishment? How do you feel about the frivolous side of women? Do men have a frivolous side? How do you feel about the term 'ego'? How do you recharge your batteries? Your feelings about talk shows? Do you like going to the circus? What about zoos? What do you think about men/female drivers?  What do you think about equality of the sexes? If you could change your career, what direction would you take? Would you donate your organs? If your loved one is declared brain dead, would you turn of any machines keeping her alive? Do you believe in euthenasia? Tile or carpet? Your feelings on homosexuaity? What do you think is the height of laziness? Do you believe in freedom of choice? Would you campaign for anything you believed in strongly? Do you believe in gun control? Would you join a service organization such as Rotary? Curtains or blinds? Do you watch soap operas? Bath or shower? Is life a journey? Your feelings about internet relationships? Do manners maketh the man? Your hobbies? What would you do at the spur of the moment without a moment's hesitation? Hot or cold? Long or short? Do you enjoy the outdoors? Theatre or opera? Is it okay for men to wear make-up, ear-rings etc? Your feelings about gossip? Your feelings about cosmetic surgery? Is there a purpose in wearing school uniforms? Do you enjoy playing board games? Fact or fiction? What makes a person deep? Your feelings about therapists? Does the past determine the future? Double or single? Your feelings about a woman keeping her last name when she gets married? Swimming or sunbathing? Wine or beer? Is silence golden? Chicken or turkey? Ealy riser or late sleeper? Tuesdays or Thursdays? Newspapers or magazines? Do you believe in the supernatural? How competitive are you? Medicine or herbs? Do you watch beauty pageants? What do you read? High or flat shoes? What is your definition of security? What does a gift mean to you? Should the man be the breadwinner in the family? Would you own a firearm? If so, why? Silver or gold? Your feelings about pets? Do you enjoy the sea/waterfalls/the beach/rivers? How important is having time for yourself? Alone time? Does good always overcome evil? Do you enjoy entertaining? What do you notice first when you meet someone? What does 'status' mean? How do you submit to authority? Hotel or chalet? Is luxury important to you? Photos or videos? What does 'balance' mean? Do you like colour? High or low? How mathematical are you? What is the first thing you do in the morning? Are you always on time? Do you keep your word? Are you good at languages? Do you enjoy music? What kind of movies do you like? How do you feel about the anti-smoking campaign? Your views on war? Do you believe in graphology? Do you enjoy a good debate? How important are other people's points of view when making a decision? Do you enjoy cooking? Is the kitchen simply a woman's domain? Do you ever gaze at the stars at night? Which was the most exciting decare - 70's, 80's or 90's? Big or small? Aeroplane or ship? Square or round? Your views on debt? Dresses or long pants? Do you believe in luck? Do you gamble? Where do you see yourself in five years' time? Is a guy the stronger sex? Is it okay to cry? What is fun? Are you dramatic? Do you enjoy gardening? Sweaters or jackets? Blonde or brown hair? If your partner goes to great lengths to cook a dinner for you, but it doesn't taste good, how would you handle it? Secrets or surprises? What is your greatest Christmas joy? Which holiday do you enjoy the most? Do you like perfume? A moustache/beard or clean shaven? Does the thought of ageing scare you? Have television/computers had a negative effect on normal family life? Train or car? Would you foster a child? Does the thought of Aids scare you? What do you think about chewing gum? What is perfection? Ice cream or chocolate? Do you believe in creating your own opportunities? Do you believe in voting? City or country life? Do you like animals? Do you enjoy travelling? Long or short hair? What is racism? Do you believe in evolution? Do you like cartoons? What musical instruments - if any - do you like? Your feelings about physically handicapped people? Tennis or squash? New or old? Regular or percolated coffee? Buried or cremated? If you could be an item of clothing, what would you be? Your feelings about Greenpeace? Short or tall? Red or white meat? Red or white wine? Do you believe in censorship? Do you have any phobias? Your friend's children are running amok in your house. Would you say something? You are a guest at a friend's house and he/she serves something you don't eat. How do you deal with the situation? Your favourite vacation destination? Your favourite fruit? Summer or winter? Do you wash your car or have it washed? Do you like hammocks? Describe your relationship with your parents. Describe your relationship with your siblings. Is today's youth promiscuous? Is it important to be well-spoken? Sweet or sour? Young or old? Your feelings on raves? Wood or chrome? Do you enjoy driving? House or flat (apartment)? Green or yello? Do you swim in the ocean? Do too many cooks spoil the broth? Do you enjoy visiting on the phone? Have you had surgery? What for? Does violence in movies and on television bother you? Do colours have symbolic meaning? The weirdest experience you've ever had? Has someone close to you died? Who? Your favourite meal? Do you like flea markets? Do you enjoy fun fairs or carnivals? Do you enjoy shopping? White or coloured paper? How do you handle interviews? Is quality important? Mickey Mouse or Goofey? Your feelings on women in the military? Does a woman have more perseverance than a man? Would you interfere in your partner's work or work relationships? Would you be able to work for the same company as your partner? Your feelings on office flings? Is sexual harassmant a reality? Is human behaviour learned or does instinct play a part? What is cute or sweet? Are verbal and physical abuse the same things? Do you eat breakfast? The ocean or mountains? What would you want to be said in your eulogy one day? Are to do lists a good thing? What do you think about fashion?